+1 on how to experience things and other general events
I think that social media causes people to become jaded to life, in general. I hear very often from friends and peers my age (22-25) that they’re scared that their life isn’t unique or special enough. They see a bunch of their friends getting engaged, married, or even having a kid of facebook and it all seems so “generic.”
Friend’s new puppy on Instagram
Super lit night at Hakkasan via Snapchat Story
@Ultra is fucking amazing omfg I love everything – Twitter
Seeing all these posts used to make me feel small, and I started to feel as if nothing in the world could really be exactly, specifically, and only mine. Like nothing could make me feel different. But then I realized that becoming jaded to something I’ve never experienced for myself is rather stupid and unintentional. Even if I see the 700 posts every weekend about friends at raves or hiking magnificent mountains or of their newborn child, it shouldn’t – and doesn’t anymore – make me feel like everything is overdone, because the easy and stupidly obvious truth is that I‘ve never felt what it’s like.
I suppose I’m arriving at this conclusion because I used to majorly hate on EDM raves. One might even say I used to Major League hate. I saw all these beautiful, young people and thought they were wasting their lives on hedonistic pleasures. I looked down on them because of something that T.I. (of all people) said. I still subscribe to this belief, but now only apply it to myself:
In the endless torrent of fb pics and snapchat stories, I became disgusted, because I couldn’t think larger than myself. It just didn’t occur to me that maybe someone’s capacity for happiness doesn’t have a limit. I thought that if someone wasn’t where they would like to be, they should instead strive relentlessly to get to wherever that point is. But once you arrive, what are you? (Harder) Better? (Faster) Stronger? But will you be happier? Would you really have taken by the balls everything and anything that this realm has to offer? Afterall,
“We are such stuff
As dreams are made on, and our little life
Is rounded with a sleep.”
It doesn’t really matter if you get tired of seeing your friends’ wedding photos, because you don’t know what it’s like to get married. If you find it typical that one of your friends is having the time of their life at Ultra, maybe first consider if you’d be one to not share your excitement (hopefully in a non-look at how awesome my life is kind of way).
Instead, feel happy for people and feel happy for yourself that such things exist, that such levels of excitement are possible.
Tenet: Don’t not do something or not go through an experience just because it seems typical or generic of you to do. You’ve never experienced it yourself, and you really don’t know what you’re missing out on.
^Shroggin Squad at Beyond Wonderland 2015. Man, look how fuckin’ happy I look. It’s almost disgusting.